I love that you have separated the 'muddle' and can see each piece, one piece at a time. It's a struggle to learn 'to see the trees instead of the forest'. Once you do that you can nurture each tree individually. Help make it grow, become the best it can be. My hope is to one day I too will have accomplished that ability.
This ability - I think- comes with so much practice and writing and writing and writing down all the bones of our stories. We must do this together in community, and in solitude. I look forward to seeing you do this too. I love your use of the metaphor -of seeing the trees as pieces of the story. And I love analyzing an individual tree instead of the forest as a whole. It’s the trees that we can hold on to. Literally.
Such great questions! As I read the first one or two, my mind was - wow these are excellent questions for me to answer. So pleased to come to the end of them and your invitation to share them.
Thank you Wendy! So good to hear from you. I think it's a really wise investigation into our UM, which as you know, is waiting to be asked. Feel free to share what comes up for you by sending me a direct email.
Love this! I hear you so clearly in these words and I can pretend we're sitting together and you're sharing your heart with me... right here, right now. I love how you're learning how to be here now.
Thank you! It's amazing that what we fear won't resonate does actually resonate. Because I didn't spend hours pouring over perfectionism and it's becoming NO longer performative but more creative. It feels foreign and yet homey, and while I do avoid striving, it's a delicate balance, as I carefully pay attention to honouring my intentions to create as opposed to laddering.
True read JF. .. your tone rang clearly in my head when you said “hell no!” As those were the words that I started using over a decade and a half ago that helped me spend time for me versus only living to please others. I still have quite a ways to go, but loving the people that are around me, is certainly the right trajectory.
Ha! Yes, if we love ourselves, we might take less risk or maybe more, depending on the situation. Ultimately what's right for one person is wrong for another and visa versa. I'm always curious to see what is working for people. And when it's not working, here I am, to help by coaching them:)
I love that you have separated the 'muddle' and can see each piece, one piece at a time. It's a struggle to learn 'to see the trees instead of the forest'. Once you do that you can nurture each tree individually. Help make it grow, become the best it can be. My hope is to one day I too will have accomplished that ability.
This ability - I think- comes with so much practice and writing and writing and writing down all the bones of our stories. We must do this together in community, and in solitude. I look forward to seeing you do this too. I love your use of the metaphor -of seeing the trees as pieces of the story. And I love analyzing an individual tree instead of the forest as a whole. It’s the trees that we can hold on to. Literally.
Such great questions! As I read the first one or two, my mind was - wow these are excellent questions for me to answer. So pleased to come to the end of them and your invitation to share them.
Thank you Wendy! So good to hear from you. I think it's a really wise investigation into our UM, which as you know, is waiting to be asked. Feel free to share what comes up for you by sending me a direct email.
Love this! I hear you so clearly in these words and I can pretend we're sitting together and you're sharing your heart with me... right here, right now. I love how you're learning how to be here now.
Thank you! It's amazing that what we fear won't resonate does actually resonate. Because I didn't spend hours pouring over perfectionism and it's becoming NO longer performative but more creative. It feels foreign and yet homey, and while I do avoid striving, it's a delicate balance, as I carefully pay attention to honouring my intentions to create as opposed to laddering.
True read JF. .. your tone rang clearly in my head when you said “hell no!” As those were the words that I started using over a decade and a half ago that helped me spend time for me versus only living to please others. I still have quite a ways to go, but loving the people that are around me, is certainly the right trajectory.
Absolutely. Loving others is interrelated with loving ourselves.
Love it.. for it does sound ‘safer than my MO’ (… if you are not living life on the edge… your taking up too much space!)
Ha! Yes, if we love ourselves, we might take less risk or maybe more, depending on the situation. Ultimately what's right for one person is wrong for another and visa versa. I'm always curious to see what is working for people. And when it's not working, here I am, to help by coaching them:)